Girl
By: Ian Ford
Ok so here's how it is, plain and simple. I like this girl, possibly even love her. Around May or June of last year I started to get a little crush on her. We constantly texted back and forth, I learned things about her and she learned things about me, we talked secrets, we talked about everything… there was not one thing that we could not talk about. Texting and ‘oovooing’ throughout the summer, it was a blast and really helped me form a good image of who this girl really was, and I liked it. Then the time came when she started to become interested in relationships, and though it hurt me a lot, I helped her get a boyfriend... lasted about a week or two before she broke up with him. We went on to being friends, solved each others problems, I would go to her house and hang out, play games, do all sorts of fun stuff. Then I thought I would try and go out with her, I asked her if she wanted to go to Shakespeare in the Park as like a "date," she said yes. I got us cookies and hot chocolate to share as we picnicked and watched the show together. It was very nice, a nice night, and a nice night out with a girl that I really liked at this point in the timeline. After that I thought we were in some sort of relationship, she disagreed (After countless outings with just the two of us I just assumed) and we took about a week break while I began football.
We then started to send little texts back and forth again, I help her with her Quiditch match (Which I found pretty entertaining) I went to her house, and she helped me get through crappy football camp two-a-days mentally, it was a good time in my life. (Well except for almost breaking my MCL, which she also helped me get through) For some reason we sort of stopped talking for like a week and a half due to busy schedules until Homecoming came along. I could tell that she was so excited about it as she wanted me to be her date, so in liking her I agreed to go with her. It was a really fun time; we danced, hung out with her friends, lots of stuff. (Yes that included a little moment of slow dancing... we weren't that bad in my opinion haha) After that I just started hanging out with her more, I went to a party for her band, Victory for Poland, where she is an amazing drummer with a bright future in music. Then, out of the blue, I asked her if she wanted to go to Dave & Busters with me, I was so excited, I got free tickets for helping out the team, we could have lots of fun and maybe start a relationship out of it... she said no because she saw through me and knew I wanted to make it date-like; therefore resulting in a no.
We just kept texting back and forth and seeing each other, then one day I was sooooo happy cause she finally agreed to wear my football jersey (It was for the game at the Ralph) I sort of clued in that I wanted to go out again but she said no. (Don’t remember what I said but she used to good old, “I don’t want to get into a more serious relationship at this point”) We still hung out quite often. With me volunteering at the Boo Benefit came all of her friends getting to see me and meeting me personally. After the benefit was over they invited me to Mighty Taco. I went, we talked, we joked, they seemed to really like. (They still do I think haha) Apparently they liked me enough to harass her into going out with me. With them pressuring her and me having nothing to do with it stress was in the air on her part so I just told her to ignore them for her sake.
I then get into a big head on collision, $15,000 in damage on an $18,000 car. She really helped me get through the entire event, with her kind words and uplifting personality. (And her mom saying the Ketchup bottle was destroyed, as she liked to call me Ketchup, I found it funny) Mentally she stayed by my side late into the night until I finally calmed down and was able to go to sleep.
Late November comes along with an entire day full of fun things we did together. Lunch at Panaras, helping her buy a rated M video game (Hehe, he thought I was over the age of 18 so I could sin for her) biking, going to the park, playing on the playground, swinging next to each other on the swings, eating in Tim Hortons, and finally eating dinner and playing video games together before having to go home. (I also met her grandparents that day tehe) Later, because she was stressed about the entire thing, I tried to help her think through it, I wanted to know if she truly liked me, I wanted her to truly listen to her heart, something she has never really done before, trying my best not to get my way; I did it as a friend. She finally said no after three days of hard thought... she may have regretted it so she didn't stop thinking.
We got each other Christmas presents and exchanged them on Christmas eve, she got me a shirt and some nice chocolate pretzels; I got her a really nice Disney necklace that I put around a little Simba doll with a CD (Something she wanted to do since the summer that I could teach her, that was a fun day) Then Christmas comes, she finally tells me that she has been thinking about me, that she felt all warm inside just thinking about us cuddling. That is just what we did on the following Friday after my Surgery, while we watched a movie called Bridesmaids; She brought us food (Ice cream for me due to my Wisdom teeth being taken out and her being thoughtful) and we cuddled in my brand new papasan chair. It was really nice, like really really nice just cuddling with her, it made me feel really really good inside, it made me feel special. (Even though with her not knowing, I was bleeding in my mouth, it hurt a lot) Then comes the next day along with the hell that all guys go through after the first date... the "What ifs." So I, being a dumb guy, just kept on texting her to see if she really liked me after that first date. I could tell that something was wrong.
I then attend the New Years Eve party that she invited me to at her friend’s house. There we had fun, we watched television, they danced (I couldn't as I would have hit the ceiling) but she really avoided being near me except for a couple of minutes she sat next to me on the couch where it appeared that she was avoiding to even touch me. I noticed this, being the frantic after first date guy. At the end we hugged and I left after celebrating the New Year of 2012. About half an hour later I texted her and asked her if she liked me still after that first date and if she would be interested in going on a second date with me. She replies that she wanted to just stay friends, due to things that went on in her head in the days leading up to the party. I was, and still am, left with a lot of questions, what did I do wrong, was it something I did, or didn’t do?
I'm really sad about this because she has been on my mind literally for eight months now, I've gone through so much stress as my parents seem to hate her (I have had to fight them over her on multiple occasions), she's broken my heart 5 times, all of which she seemed to have liked me (especially after the dance when she was sooooo excited to go with me) So, in the end, I'm just really really sad, a night without sleep, some tears, and I’m left with a great way to start the new year.
By: Ian Ford
Ok so here's how it is, plain and simple. I like this girl, possibly even love her. Around May or June of last year I started to get a little crush on her. We constantly texted back and forth, I learned things about her and she learned things about me, we talked secrets, we talked about everything… there was not one thing that we could not talk about. Texting and ‘oovooing’ throughout the summer, it was a blast and really helped me form a good image of who this girl really was, and I liked it. Then the time came when she started to become interested in relationships, and though it hurt me a lot, I helped her get a boyfriend... lasted about a week or two before she broke up with him. We went on to being friends, solved each others problems, I would go to her house and hang out, play games, do all sorts of fun stuff. Then I thought I would try and go out with her, I asked her if she wanted to go to Shakespeare in the Park as like a "date," she said yes. I got us cookies and hot chocolate to share as we picnicked and watched the show together. It was very nice, a nice night, and a nice night out with a girl that I really liked at this point in the timeline. After that I thought we were in some sort of relationship, she disagreed (After countless outings with just the two of us I just assumed) and we took about a week break while I began football.
We then started to send little texts back and forth again, I help her with her Quiditch match (Which I found pretty entertaining) I went to her house, and she helped me get through crappy football camp two-a-days mentally, it was a good time in my life. (Well except for almost breaking my MCL, which she also helped me get through) For some reason we sort of stopped talking for like a week and a half due to busy schedules until Homecoming came along. I could tell that she was so excited about it as she wanted me to be her date, so in liking her I agreed to go with her. It was a really fun time; we danced, hung out with her friends, lots of stuff. (Yes that included a little moment of slow dancing... we weren't that bad in my opinion haha) After that I just started hanging out with her more, I went to a party for her band, Victory for Poland, where she is an amazing drummer with a bright future in music. Then, out of the blue, I asked her if she wanted to go to Dave & Busters with me, I was so excited, I got free tickets for helping out the team, we could have lots of fun and maybe start a relationship out of it... she said no because she saw through me and knew I wanted to make it date-like; therefore resulting in a no.
We just kept texting back and forth and seeing each other, then one day I was sooooo happy cause she finally agreed to wear my football jersey (It was for the game at the Ralph) I sort of clued in that I wanted to go out again but she said no. (Don’t remember what I said but she used to good old, “I don’t want to get into a more serious relationship at this point”) We still hung out quite often. With me volunteering at the Boo Benefit came all of her friends getting to see me and meeting me personally. After the benefit was over they invited me to Mighty Taco. I went, we talked, we joked, they seemed to really like. (They still do I think haha) Apparently they liked me enough to harass her into going out with me. With them pressuring her and me having nothing to do with it stress was in the air on her part so I just told her to ignore them for her sake.
I then get into a big head on collision, $15,000 in damage on an $18,000 car. She really helped me get through the entire event, with her kind words and uplifting personality. (And her mom saying the Ketchup bottle was destroyed, as she liked to call me Ketchup, I found it funny) Mentally she stayed by my side late into the night until I finally calmed down and was able to go to sleep.
Late November comes along with an entire day full of fun things we did together. Lunch at Panaras, helping her buy a rated M video game (Hehe, he thought I was over the age of 18 so I could sin for her) biking, going to the park, playing on the playground, swinging next to each other on the swings, eating in Tim Hortons, and finally eating dinner and playing video games together before having to go home. (I also met her grandparents that day tehe) Later, because she was stressed about the entire thing, I tried to help her think through it, I wanted to know if she truly liked me, I wanted her to truly listen to her heart, something she has never really done before, trying my best not to get my way; I did it as a friend. She finally said no after three days of hard thought... she may have regretted it so she didn't stop thinking.
We got each other Christmas presents and exchanged them on Christmas eve, she got me a shirt and some nice chocolate pretzels; I got her a really nice Disney necklace that I put around a little Simba doll with a CD (Something she wanted to do since the summer that I could teach her, that was a fun day) Then Christmas comes, she finally tells me that she has been thinking about me, that she felt all warm inside just thinking about us cuddling. That is just what we did on the following Friday after my Surgery, while we watched a movie called Bridesmaids; She brought us food (Ice cream for me due to my Wisdom teeth being taken out and her being thoughtful) and we cuddled in my brand new papasan chair. It was really nice, like really really nice just cuddling with her, it made me feel really really good inside, it made me feel special. (Even though with her not knowing, I was bleeding in my mouth, it hurt a lot) Then comes the next day along with the hell that all guys go through after the first date... the "What ifs." So I, being a dumb guy, just kept on texting her to see if she really liked me after that first date. I could tell that something was wrong.
I then attend the New Years Eve party that she invited me to at her friend’s house. There we had fun, we watched television, they danced (I couldn't as I would have hit the ceiling) but she really avoided being near me except for a couple of minutes she sat next to me on the couch where it appeared that she was avoiding to even touch me. I noticed this, being the frantic after first date guy. At the end we hugged and I left after celebrating the New Year of 2012. About half an hour later I texted her and asked her if she liked me still after that first date and if she would be interested in going on a second date with me. She replies that she wanted to just stay friends, due to things that went on in her head in the days leading up to the party. I was, and still am, left with a lot of questions, what did I do wrong, was it something I did, or didn’t do?
I'm really sad about this because she has been on my mind literally for eight months now, I've gone through so much stress as my parents seem to hate her (I have had to fight them over her on multiple occasions), she's broken my heart 5 times, all of which she seemed to have liked me (especially after the dance when she was sooooo excited to go with me) So, in the end, I'm just really really sad, a night without sleep, some tears, and I’m left with a great way to start the new year.
